I started listening to Darlene’s podcast, “Her Next Steps” a few months ago when I launched my own business. I connected with her on her website. She offers great guidance and insight in how to get focused on what really matters and what will get your results.
You know that exhilaration you feel when first setting out on an important goal? The early days are exciting, then you meet some roadblocks, and your enthusiasm starts to lag. You start to think “Should I just quit?” You’re not alone. Following through with goals is challenging. Otherwise you would have already accomplished them! Are your dreams worth pushing through your own barriers? If you said, “YES!” I have 4 ways to get you to follow-through on your goals.
1. Is the Goal Really What You Want?
This is a tough one. There are things we think we want, and then there are things we really want. Visualize an important goal you’re having trouble sticking with. Is it something you really want, or the people around you think you should have? If the motivation for this goal doesn’t come from within yourself, you will lose interest. Get really honest with yourself. Are your goals truly coming from within? Sometimes the best action is to let go. If you decide the goal is a strong desire from within, it will reinforce your will to keep going through the hard times.
2. Imagine Away the Fear
Once you re-establish that you really want your goal, you may still encounter fear. You may think, “My goal is to have more clients, but I’m afraid of calling/emailing my contact list. What if they think I’m pushy? or, what if I don’t know what I’m doing?” Those thoughts are old fear patterns coming up. When you face a step toward your goal that scares you, imagine to yourself: What action would I take if I weren’t afraid? Then still within that mindset, DO that action. Just a baby step. The “fearless” actions will build upon themselves and you will become less and less fearful. “Fake it ‘till you make it” really works.
3. If you had to teach me how to do your block, how would I do it?
This is a fun one. If you had to teach me how to not achieve my goal in the same way you are, how would you teach me? Write down your “block” process. Especially your thought processes that keep you back. What specific thoughts and beliefs come up to block your progress? Remember beliefs are just thoughts you think over and over. When you bring the whole block process to awareness, you’ll see that there are steps to it, and it makes it seem ridiculous.
4. Measure and Schedule
Yes, I sneaked two into this one method. You can’t change what you don’t quantify. How else would you know you are making progress? Break down to baby steps and record your actions. How many calls to contacts will you make today? Make a small action step, and then record your progress. Free online apps (like http://www.joesgoals.com/) are great for easy recording and measuring. You must schedule goal actions into your calendar, the same way you do a doctor’s appointment or important meeting. Recognize that your commitments to yourself need the same focus that commitments to others receive. This action alone starts to build the momentum you need to continue taking action to following through on your goal. Darlene Cary guides overwhelmed women entrepreneurs through the maze of marketing themselves online. Find her at HerNextStep.com
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