How many times have you found yourself looking at other’s success or failures and measured your self worth based on that “assessment”? The comparison trap is one of the easiest traps to fall into and perhaps one of the hardest ones to get out of.
Comparing yourself with others is a destructive habit. You may be deceived to think that measuring your own accomplishments against other’s is motivating and inspiring. The opposite is true. Comparing yourself against other’s is a terrible measure of your progress. You need to measure your progress from YOUR OWN ACHIEVEMENTS.
Don’t look at where the other person is at and think you haven’t made the progress you wish you had. You rob yourself of your enjoyment and peace when you are constantly looking at others. Instead, look at how far you have come along. Celebrate each step.
Yes- you want the milestones. Yes you want the finish line. Those are good things to keep before you but the journey is made up of many more steps than milestones. If you are miserable every step of the way because you are looking way ahead at the others that appear to be where you wish you were, you are going to miss out on the lessons that are right here.
The same is true for looking at others that appear to be behind you. Don’t think you are better than someone because you are ahead of them. You were once where they are now. Take the time to teach them how to get to where you are. Don’t be so fixated on where you wish you were that you forget to look behind you to see how far you have come AND notice those who you can help lead to have the same success as you.
Everyone’s journey is unique to them. Some may have sprinted to get to get ahead of everyone and will quickly burn out because it is not a sustainable speed. Other’s may still be learning how to pace themselves. Some may appear to be way behind but may be going at just the right pace that they eventually pass those that sprinted ahead. Remember that the Tortoise ALWAYS wins!
Find YOUR OWN pace- that is how you will win YOUR race! (That was great rhyming if I may say so myself ;)!