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5 Ways to Get Un-stuck from a Job or Life You No Longer Like:
We all get stuck sometimes in life. I’m sure we can all agree that feeling stuck or trapped is no fun at all. Trust me, I’ve been there!
It is easy to lose hope, become angry, and almost give up when we feel that there is no way out of our miserable situation. I felt stuck in a job I didn’t like for a while. I spent so much time, money, and energy on a degree and enhancing my skills in my field of work. Most people will tell you to get a Master’s degree to help you transition out of your job to a better one.
I followed that lousy advice. Thankfully I only went to Graduate school for one semester before I came to my senses. A higher degree was not my ticket out of my misery. I learned that the ticket out of my misery was actually in my hand the entire time.
Here is what I learned, and what I did to get unstuck:
1. Stop feeling like a victim.
If you are in a job you hate, you have chosen to stay in the job you hate. I realize that you have bills to pay and you need to be responsible for your obligations and commitments you have.
I’m not saying to go into work and rage quit. I’ve been tempted to do that so many times. That’s just silly to do. What I am saying, is to be aware that you are choosing to stay at your job. You can also choose to make a plan and change your job.
You are way more powerful over your life than you realize.
2. Grab hold of the reigns.
Once I stopped feeling like I was a victim of my circumstances, I felt empowered to grab hold of the reigns of my life and career and to start directing my life to where I wanted to be and go.
Did my circumstances change immediately? No…but I started taking action steps to get me out of my job and into work I love.
If you don’t even know where to begin and how to develop a plan of action I would recommend with reading the book StrengthsFinder 2.0 and taking the DISC assessment. These two resources will at least give you some guidance to how you are wired. This will help you know what to avoid in a future job and what to look for.
3. Schedule time to reflect on who you are and dream up what you want.
I can’t tell you how many people continue to put things in front of self-reflection. Life is busy. I get that. Life will always be busy if we do not get intentional about how we spend our time. Just like we need margin in our finances, we need margin in our time.
It is wise to budget our money every month, as well as our time. To get you clear on what you need to spend your time doing, write a list of the following four things.
1. Urgent tasks: This could be things like doing dishes, yardwork, laundry, cleaning your house, etc. These are things that do need to get done but are not important.
2. Important tasks: exercise, writing your resume, taking time to search for job, oil changes, time to reach out and connect with people, time for yourself to unplug. These things are VERY important but not necessarily urgent. If ignored, you will ruin your car, lose connection with people, stay in the same job, and allow your health to fall apart.
3. Urgent and Important tasks: An example of this would be paying your bills that are due, meeting a deadline (such as preparing taxes by April 15), I would say spending time with God daily falls under this category as well. These are things that if you don’t do at all, will have immediate, adverse consequences such as late fees, vulnerability to spiritual attacks and oppression, poor performance evaluations, etc.
4. Neither urgent and important tasks: These are things that we should eliminate all together. Watching trash TV, filling our minds with negative news and messages, wasting time on pinterest (guilty!), exessively checking emails, spending too much time on social media, are examples of big times wasters.
To really help hold yourself accountable, take note of everything you do with your time that is neither urgent or important. Write a list of things you do to get a clear picture of just how much time is spent on useless things.
In the spirit of transparency here is my list:
Obsessively checking emails
Texting with friends/family when I should be working on the task at hand
Impulsive shopping trips
Browsing the web on a rabit trail
What are some of the things you could stop doing?
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