I have a confession to make. Sometimes I get *extremely* jealous of someone else’s success. Sometimes the feeling of jealousy is so intense that I get enraged at the person who has what I want. So much so that it can lead to hating them. Especially one who seems to come out of nowhere, have started their business after me, and are basking in glory and achievement that I have been hustling my hiney off to achieve.
Jealousy is a powerful emotion. It scares me that it can creep inside and push my emotions and thoughts to the point of hating a person I don’t even know.
It’s an ugly feeling. I’m certainly not proud of it and work towards overcoming such a nasty emotion.
Here are the 5 steps I take that help me turn this nasty green envy bug around fast.
- Identify the feeling quickly and call it out: The sooner you acknowledge the pesty and ugly feeling the sooner you can get rid of it. I don’t deny that it’s there- I face it head on and pray for help to overcome it.
- Realize that there is a deeper root that has led to the jealousy: When I pray for help to overcome the jealousy, I ask Why am I feeling this way? Where has this feeling come from? When did this first appear in my life? There is likely a soul wound that happened earlier in your life that you now react from. Unhealed soul wounds can keep you stuck and repeating the same destructive patterns until you go to God for healing. For more help and guidance with healing soul wounds visit Brian Holmes. Another person I recommend connecting with is Cindy Cox.
- Remember that everyone’s journey is unique: We all have a different pace and different path. Oftentimes, when we see what appears to be an “overnight success” we are not seeing the whole picture. I have several friends that have given a service away for free for years. After strong, and unrelenting encouragement from friends and family to make a business from their passion and talent, they step out. These are the ones who tend to see rapid growth and success. Why? Because they already have contacts, platform, credibility, and people WAITING for them to open for business. This is not the case for everyone, and the sooner you accept that- the sooner you will overcome jealousy.
- We all have different skill sets, experiences, and talents: When I started my business, I had ZERO knowledge of business, marketing and sales. I dove all in and learned as I went. This meant, that it took longer for me to grow a profitable business than others. Once again, the ones who seem to be able to grow a 6 or 7 figure business in 6 months may have experience in business, marketing or sales. We all have advantages and some challenges. Some people have spouses that can offer an extra set of hands and talent to support their dream. Other’s are single and do not have children. We all have a different life phase when we start our business and that does affect how long it takes to grow a profitable business. Once again, the sooner you understand and accept that, the faster you get rid of the jealousy.
- Be grateful for what you already have. Oftentimes, we experience jealousy when we are focused on what we don’t have and what we want rather than on what we do have and our own blessings. Step back, look at all you have going for you. Write down a list of all your blessings and start praising God for His gifts.
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