Since the launch of my business I have been very intentional about who I decide to hang around with. I have heard it said that we become like the 5 people we hang around the most. What are the attitudes and habits of those who you interact with the most on a daily basis? Are they people of excellence? Do they have a mature character? Are they trustworthy? Do they possess integrity?
The workplace is where most of us spend our waking hours. What is the culture like in your workplace? Is it healthy, positive and full of energy to meet the goals of the company and help the company excel? Or do your colleagues gossip about the company, your supervisor and everyone else around them? This could be a tough environment to be in and have it not effect you.
I was very fortunate in my day job to work mostly from home and only interact with colleagues during mandatory training and meetings. It was hard enough for me to try to have a positive attitude in the job I did not like while I was trying to transition out of my job. Getting around other people that voiced what I already felt and thought made it even more challenging to be around.
What do you do if you build relationships with your co-workers with a negative habit?
1. You purpose and pray to change it.
This takes courage to possibly lose those relationships and be the outcast of the group because you refuse to participate in their gossip and negative energy. You can redirect the conversation or offer a positive perspective to their negative opinions.
I personally lost some relationships with co-workers I once was very close with and developed new ones. The healthier you become in your mindset the healthier people you tend to attract.
2. Change the things you can. Accept the things you can’t.
This sounds a lot like the serenity prayer. It’s the same concept. What can you change? Your attitude is one (I know WAAAYY easier said than done!). If something really irks you at work join a committee or speak to your supervisor about possible solutions to the problem.
If you have a challenging relationship with a co-worker go speak the truth in love. Go to the person FIRST. This is very intimidating for MOST people. If you wish to one day be promoted and to be in a leadership role here is your shot. Being a door mat is not a sign of leadership. Allowing yourself to be disrespected and mistreated without you asserting yourself is not loving yourself enough to know you deserve otherwise. Jesus never had a problem standing up for himself and speaking the truth in love when it was needed.
If setting boundaries, confronting inappropriate behaviors, and saying NO is a challenge for you I highly recommend the book Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
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