A lot of people are still seeking and searching for their purpose and calling. One of the most common questions I receive is this:
How did you find what your purpose was?
Today, I will break down the process I went through that helped me to uncover my purpose that led me to meaningful, prosperous life work. This is the same process I walk my clients through.
Step 1: Ask God what your unique created purpose is in prayer.
We have not because we ask not. It is pretty clear that we have a role to play in our life. It isn’t “whatever happens, happens.” We have to ask, and then we will receive. We have to knock, and then the door will be opened. We have to seek, and then we will find.
Are you being active in pressing in and seeking your unique purpose?
Step 2: Surround yourself with a multitude of advisers.
“Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.”-Proverbs 15:22.
Are you trying to “figure it out” on your own? Best of luck to you with that. Did you know that it is prideful to think that we can do it independently of God and others?
Remember the scripture “It is not good for man to be alone?”Gen 2:18. We need other people to help us in life.
Think of the people God has blessed you with and lean on them for support. Sometimes, it is best to pay for professional guidance. Hiring an objective coach to help you through the process will probably be a better option than asking your mom or best friend for advice.
If you don’t have the resources at the moment to hire a coach, read books, listen to podcast and of course – PRAY IN THE RESOURCES!
You probably have figured out by now that I am a firm believer in the power of prayer. I go back to step one- pray what you need in. Trust God to guide your steps to bring you the resources you need. We are co-creators of our life. God has the plan, but we have to take the steps.
Step 3: Just DO SOMETHING!
Prayer is certainly powerful and effective. So is seeking wise council with those that God has put in your life. Relying on those two things alone isn’t going to get you the results you desire though.
You have to TAKE ACTION! Even when you have no clear neon, flashing sign that says “Your next step is here” (don’t we wish it happens that way?) you need to be taking steps.
God often moves when WE DRAW NEAR TO HIM. When we take a step, then He parts the water.
When I started seeking God on my purpose, I first started pursuing a dream I thought I always wanted to do. I have always loved weddings and thought I would love being a wedding planner. I reached out to a local wedding planner and asked if I could volunteer for her. (Career tip: Offer to volunteer in a field of interest and see how many doors open up for you!)
I soon learned that wedding planning required working almost every day of the weekend from 10 am- 1 am (You need to go back and coordinate clean up). It was also extremely stressful. If something went wrong (which it almost always did) you have to be quick on your feet to solve the problem. Brides are also picky and tough to work with. I learned that wedding planning is not something I want to do for a career. And the only way I learned that was because I took action.
The point I am making is, that I started pursuing my passions and dreams and seeing if it is in fact a good fit and profitable.
Many people have many passions and don’t know where to begin. My advice is to start doing something! Learn as you go what works for you and what doesn’t. The truth is, there really isn’t a crystal clear blueprint.
Step 4: Look for repeated patterns and messages.
Your purpose will involve you doing something that you have always loved doing. You most likely are naturally gifted in this area. If you have a heart to serve, mentor, support someone, and walk with someone through a transition or transformation than maybe being a coach, pastor, motivational speaker, etc. is a good fit for you. You can also touch people through music, art, gardening, etc.
Expand your mind. Don’t stay in the box society places you in. Get out of the box. Start exploring.
Step 5: Quit but never give up.
This may sound contradictory but let me explain. Successful people know when to quit. I knew that wedding planning was not a good fit for me, so I chose not to pursue it anymore.
When I learned of the industry of coaching, I first wanted to be a health coach. I love exercise and healthy nutrition. They are passions of mine. When I first was learning my “niche” I was teaching exercise classes and planned to help people lose weight and eat healthy.
I quickly learned that I needed to have a lot of knowledge in nutrition and understand a lot of scientific concepts. I also realized that while I love attending exercise classes, I did not like leading and being responsible for the class. Turning a hobby into a career sometimes takes the enjoyment out of it. I “quit” my pursuit of being a health coach.
But I never gave up….I eventually found my true passion of helping others learn their purpose. It is something I have learned how to do and can help others do. It feels like play for me. It is a perfect fit. As I continue learning, I discover new passions. I learn how to incorporate them in my work to make my work even more fulfilling and enjoyable.
It didn’t happen overnight. The revelation didn’t come the moment I took action. Because I knew when to quit but refused to give up, I eventually found my calling.
You will too! Get praying, asking, and moving!