Do you feel like you have no friends, no direction, and no hope? I recently received a note from a reader who stated that they live at home with their parents, are broke and has no friends.
While I certainly have compassion for this situation, I refused to crawl in the pit of despair with them.
Here are three practical steps to crawl out of the pit:
- Focus on abundance: Challenge your mind to focus on abundance and what you do have vs what you don’t have. When you magnify what you are missing/lacking you only generate more of what you do not want. When you focus on what you do have, and open your eyes to the things right in front of you that are for you and positive, you generate and multiply that. The good news? Jesus died for you to have life and have it more abundantly. Meditate on that yummy truth 🙂
Here is an exercise to get you started with this practice:
Write a list of everything working well in your life. You may still feel depressed and oppressed but the way through that is to fight it with gratitude and shifting your perspective. Take out a pen and paper and do this right now. Read this list out loud daily or whenever you feel discouraged. If you are a person of faith, find encouraging scriptures that speak the truth about your situation. Saying scriptures out loud is one of the most powerful ways to fight off the dark spirit of depression and despair.
2. Volunteer: One of the best actions you can take when fighting despair is to serve someone with the same need or greater needs than your own. Serve at a social service agency such as a food pantry or soup kitchen to really help you shift perspective and get the gratitude flowing.
3. Stop talking about the problem: Again, this reiterates and produces more of what you do not want. Yes, have safe people to vent to- but make sure those people are healthy,compassionate, but REFUSE to get into the pit of despair with you. You want to find a safe person/people that will listen to you and understand the difficulty you are in, but then encourage you to get out of it by not participating in any pity party that may be going on.
I love the movie Bridesmaids. There is a great scene in it where a friend encourages one of the characters in a very healthy way (it’s a comedy, so she does things that are a bit over the top, but her words are key). Watch this scene below: