During this holiday season hopefully you have a chance to relax and unwind. But as you begin to enjoy the goodness of Christmas vacay from work or school, you may find yourself asking:
Am I sure I enjoy the Major I selected? Do I really want to do what I am studying for my work?
If you are out of school and already working you may ask:
Have I been happy and fulfilled at work this year? Is this position satisfying my unique purpose? Are all my skills, talents, gifts, and abilities being utilized and grown at work? What other jobs could I be doing that would be more fulfilling — monetarily and spiritually?
If you are asking yourself these questions it is time to SLOW DOWN and REFLECT during the break to find some answers and guidance on your next step. If you are really stuck- invest in yourself. Hire a coach. Life is too short to waste it on delayed action, staying in fear of the unknown. If you continue to do what you have always done (indecisiveness, inaction, repeat habits) you will continue to get what you always get. Don’t be insane (doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome). CHANGE SOMETHING!
If you’re like many people, you’ve probably lost track of what would make you happy at work — but are deep in touch with what makes you miserable. You can’t change your career or your life by snapping your fingers, but you can begin to think about what that true passion might be. Once you understand what you really want to be doing, you can start connecting the dots and figuring out how to get from here to there.
During the holidays, you can start the process of re-igniting your career with these 5 tips:
1. Join a Career Transitions Group.
I have a Linked in group – Women in Career Transitions that you are welcome to join! This is a free way to help you find support and resources that can aid in your career transition.
2. DISCover what makes you tick.
If you have not taken the time to really learn about what your ideal working environment and communication style is please take advantage of the extra time now. Are you results oriented or people oriented? Do you take risks or prefer to play it safe? Do you make quick decisions and take action without hesitation or do you gather the facts and take time to absorb all the information out there before making any decision at all? For a really accurate 30 page in-depth assessment specific to you- click here.
3. Interview people that love what they do.
Start asking people that love their work how they discovered what their ideal work is. Are they doing what they studied in college? Are they in their same job they got right out of college? Did they have multiple jobs before they found this one? Are they a business owner/entrepreneur? What did they learn and experience on the journey and in the process of finding/creating work they love?
4. Limit your exposure around negative people.
Noting will keep you stuck in the same miserable spot like negativity- whether its your own attitude or from the ones you surround yourself with. It’s hard enough trying to change our attitudes and perspective to focus on the positive- why make it even harder by hanging around negative people?
Perhaps you have negative family members that you have been around longer than you would necessarily like to be around this holiday season. Learning the beauty and power of boundaries is life changing. Saying NO to excessive engagement and interaction with negative people (including family) is healthy and vital to your own personal growth and well being.
We are told to love our neighbor as ourselves. Are you really loving yourself by spending too much time around negative people that pull you down? Don’t deceive yourself by thinking you are loving the other people/person by not saying anything and setting a boundary for the sake of sparing their feelings. It’s actually selfish (in a negative and unloving way) to not say anything to them and allowing the negativity to go on. Speak the truth in love. Let them know that your time with them may have to be limited to three hours rather than three days. Don’t cave into the guilt trip and manipulation that will likely come from them. Stay strong. If you have questions on setting boundaries and how to have that difficult conversation you have been avoiding e-mail me at Stephanie@movedbypurpose.net
Check out theses two books by Cloud and Townsend: Boundaries and How to Have that Difficult Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding.
Also click here for a free worksheet you can print and read out loud daily that will help you position your mind towards the positive and remind you what you really want so you can redirect your focus on what is most important.
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5. Write the Vision.
Habakuk 2:2 says to write the vision down and display it to be seen by many. It also reminds you that the vision is set for an appointed time. There are two things I want to dive into on this tip.
Number 1- if you don’t have a vision you have no way of knowing where you are going. Think of literal sight/vision. If you do not have sight it’s hard to tell where you are and where you are going. The bible also states “where there is no vision, the people perish” (Prov 29:18). Take the time to envision what you want your life to look like next year. Write it down and post it somewhere where you and your family will see. Remind yourself daily of where you are going so you can take the necessary steps to get there.
Number 2- Setting measurable goals and having a clear vision is great. Remember though that some things will not happen in our timing. Trust me on this one. I have never worked so hard to transition out of my job I don’t like and wanted it so bad in a certain time. I have set two big time goals- and they have not happened. Goals are healthy- obsession is not. If your vision/goal/mission consumes you to the point where you 1. long for it more than anything else (including God) and 2. you sacrifice your health, finances, social life, spiritual growth, and relationships to attain it you have put yourself in a very vulnerable and dangerous place. Learn from my mistake- STAY IN BALANCE and TRUST IN GOD’s TIMING. Seek His guidance and wisdom- He will direct your steps and give you the desires of your heart- in due season.
Comment below to let me know what your vision for your life/career is. Tell me what you learned about boundaries and loving yourself. Share what your passions are and how you want to monetize it.
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